Ageing gracefully is about knowing that it’s never too soon or too late to change your life.
As you start to age gracefully you may have regrets about things you always wanted to do but haven’t done. It’s true: many people at every age live a life that that is not at all like the dreams they had.
Perhaps you too wonder what happened to the dreams you had. Are you resigned to the way things are?
Do you think that getting older is about putting up with it all and that there is nothing you can do to make a difference?
Has it ever occurred to you that life moves on and there is never that mythical time when everything is ‘sorted’? You may find it difficult to believe right now, but it’s true. There is always change. As some situations improve, other challenges arise.
The most important thing is to realise that you can start to live the life you want now.
Perhaps there are practical considerations which mean you have to keep some things which aren’t ideal in your life. However you can begin to change things bit by bit. You can begin to introduce changes into your life. And when you do that, not only will your life change for the better but other things will change too.
People around you will change in their attitude towards you. Because when you make the changes you want, you become more focussed and more motivated.
A basic principle of change is that you can only change yourself, you cannot change other people.
However by changing yourself other people will change and your world will change too.
So instead of moaning about the trials and tribulations of being you in your present situation, identify the most important elements that are missing from your life and do something about the situation. It’s important to understand that life is not only about others, it’s about about fulfilling your own needs too.
You need to have time for just you. Time when you can connect with nature, when you can sit and stare, walk up mountains or sail. Time to be creative to take part in sport, to play music or paint.
Whatever it is which makes your heart sing. Whatever it is which connects with your inner emotional self. You really must not forget that. Your emotions and your body are part of you as much as your logical side.
Too old for all of this? Who says?
To age gracefully understand that you are never too old to change your life!
If you make the excuse of age for not taking the challenge to do what you really want to do, then stop doing that.
Your joints may be stiffer but perhaps it’s the inflexibility of your mind rather than your body which stops you achieving what you want.Here is a challenge: spend a few hours listening to what you and others say in day to day conversation. Notice the words used and the assumptions made.
Do you hear yourself saying ‘I’m no good at so and so’
Or ‘I’m dreading tomorrow’ or ‘It’s an awful journey to get from A to B’
Or ‘I can’t do that, what will they think of me!’
- Believe that whatever you want is possible.
- Decide what you want.
- Change your thoughts into positive affirmations (positive personal statements in the present tense)
- Repeat many times daily.
You are never too old to change your life and grow old gracefully.
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